Crimson i think you gave in and gave up things hoping she would come to her senses and return to the marriage. Everyone on this site did that.

Learning that there is OM shocked you into reality. I think you are also in denial that you are divorced.

Yes it hurts . I know the feeling very well. Let go of the anger it doesnt help.

M 53
D 20
Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

John Wooden