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[rsl1034]

In answer to some of the above questions;
The bank account came mostly from her pay,my checks went into a joint account where the bills were paid from , I almost had ins deducted from mine. For 10 yes she had her checks deposited to this other acct and would transfer as needed. I let her handle the bills as that is her strong suit. I wish I would have looked sooner , just 2 months ago I believed we were so bad off that we needed to choose between cell phones and satellite tv. She makes about 1.5 times what I do.
I quit snooping 3 weeks ago I have the proof and admission that I thought would be enough.
As far as STFU that's a hard one for now we still share a bed. She made the offer to go to her sister's house and I'm inclined to let her.
Cadet I've spent the last several hours reading those posts ,thanks looks like I'm at LRT now.
How exactly do I do that?