Well, I hope fortune favors the bold then. Of course 10 minutes later she was coming by the house to get S swim stuff and I just manned up and asked. She started to side step but quickly realized I wasn't asking an exploratory question....and then she got mad. Before even wanting to answer she wanted to know who told me. Which I wouldn't answer. I turned it back to respecting me enough to give me the truth. I wasn't angry or even mean at any point. I actually managed to stay calm and just said I deserved to know the truth. I don't know that I got it though. She said she had been seeing someone and it never should have happened because we are still married and she knows how wrong it was. But she also denied that anything physical happened.

I don't know whether to believe that or not though, as my first post showing her letter to this guy sounds like something did happen. She adamantly denied sex but admitted she had been seeing him and that it was over. Honestly I don't feel good about how she tore out of here pissed afterwards but I do feel good that its out in the open. I think you are right though, with my S at stake here and so many bad decisions in play I have to file paperwork and protect my rights to him. I don't have any intention of cutting her off from him but I've gotta proceed. Am I wrong?

M: 43 W: 43
Married 6 yrs.
T: 7 yrs.
Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10