Keep the focus on you and your children. Find hobbies and projects that make you think. Stay busy, get a rubber band and place it on your wrist...each and every time you think about that ow, snap that band. Also, a money jar is nice because you can say a lot of change, i.e., each and every time you think her, put a dime in the jar. Nice way to save up for a special event.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
