Mach1, the last question I do not have a complete answer to. We did fight about V-day gifts cuz of the way I acted and how mean I was (I think I had a post). Someone else asked if there was more as well. We didn't physically fight (she didn't slap me and me either). Kids heard fight but they didn't yell at us.
She did have a pre V-day post where she states wanting to be with someone (H or otherwise) so I'm not sure it's was just that day but that's the day she claimed her "done" stance.
You are correct that this all began wanting to fix nothing but M. I think the fix me understanding has sunk in I'm just learning how and now learning it'll take time.
One thing to keep in mind here, is that most MLCers coming out of the tunnel, have things come into light very slowly for them, and their memory of past events gets a little fuzzy around the details.
Is that what happened ??
Or just what you remember happening ??
Sometimes, when a person is running on full emotion, the lines get blurry...
Like I said, I am not judging you, nor do I know the entire story here.
Are you trying to save the Marriage because you love her ??
Or is this guilt from your past behaviors ???
THAT is why I want you to answer the questions...
No hurry though.....I want you to think hard on them first
