Thanks everyone for the kind words and advice, alas some of it comes too late (the story of my life) The "Im filing for divorce" bomb came this morning, I'm dealing with it. Time to start looking out for me, I'll ask her to leave, her decision and see how it goes from there. I'll post more later, have to take my mom to the DMV.
Its never too late until they put you in a box in the ground.
Yes I agree with Mach above when he said to read on the MLC forum.
I have a homework post over there that you can read.
Try clicking on my name and show posts and I just put two of them up this morning.
I would not move out of the MBR or your house. But maybe time to go the Last Resort Technique.