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Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks praying_in_GA #2451199 05/08/14 04:16 PM
Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 242 Michigan L LiveNow OP Member
OP LiveNow Member L Joined: Mar 2014 Posts: 242 Michigan	An update. Ok, it's been a few weeks, and I have still not responded to my H's question about whether I think we could use a mediator. To be clear, I still don't want the divorce, and I intend to make him do all the work if that's what he really wants. I do not intend to be difficult. I intend to cooperate, but do only what I have to do. I have been pretty down the last few days... I think if I keep him waiting even longer for a response, he is just going to get angry. Based on experience, this would be par for the course with him. So, I thought I'd send an e-mail that goes like this: "To answer your question about using a mediator, it really does not matter to me. The end result will be the same � we will no longer be married. I'm sorry that I was not the wife you wanted and needed me to be, and that you feel it is not possible to create the intimacy we were missing. From all of my reading, I know that it is, and that we are not at all unique. But we both have to be willing to make the effort, and it is clear that this is no longer the case." I could really use some feedback. Am I breaking any rules? Can I/should I soften it up somehow? Could this be taken some way that I don't intend? Any better ideas? I want to send it soon. Just feel like I'm running out of time now. I'm open to any suggestions. Thank you DB group. I'm so glad I have a place to go where I am understood. Me 53, XH 57 M 20 (+1.5) years, no kids BD June '13 H moved out July '13 Confirmed long-suspected PA Feb '14 H filed for D Nov. '14 D March '15

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New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/04/14 01:30 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Cadet	04/04/14 10:59 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Wonka	04/04/14 11:25 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/06/14 11:39 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/06/14 11:45 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	TL72*	04/07/14 04:15 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Wonka	04/07/14 04:18 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	owl777	04/07/14 06:20 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/07/14 10:02 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	TL72*	04/08/14 03:20 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	BklynMom	04/09/14 12:41 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/09/14 12:45 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	TL72*	04/09/14 01:04 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/09/14 11:40 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	mleigh4	04/10/14 01:16 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	BrightFuture	04/10/14 09:44 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/10/14 09:58 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	job	04/10/14 10:15 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/11/14 07:54 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	nyk	04/12/14 01:36 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/13/14 07:22 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/13/14 07:49 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	job	04/13/14 08:55 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	scooby	04/13/14 09:18 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/14/14 12:09 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	nyk	04/14/14 10:00 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/15/14 10:33 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	nyk	04/17/14 04:01 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/17/14 10:30 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	scooby	04/17/14 11:21 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	BrightFuture	04/18/14 12:07 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/18/14 12:44 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	nyk	04/18/14 10:23 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/19/14 01:16 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	scooby	04/19/14 05:18 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	nyk	04/20/14 01:04 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	04/25/14 12:50 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	kml	04/25/14 12:59 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	praying_in_GA	04/25/14 05:36 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/08/14 04:16 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/08/14 11:49 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	job	05/09/14 11:58 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/13/14 01:17 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/14/14 02:00 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	TL72*	05/14/14 03:18 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Georgiabelle	05/14/14 03:32 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/15/14 01:55 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/15/14 01:57 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	BrightFuture	05/15/14 02:59 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/17/14 12:13 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	daring	05/19/14 12:44 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Ggrass	05/19/14 01:01 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/20/14 02:18 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/20/14 04:11 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/20/14 08:24 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	owl777	05/20/14 08:50 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/20/14 09:20 PM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/23/14 12:16 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	05/26/14 01:51 AM
Re: New here - H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	06/10/14 01:21 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	07/27/14 10:47 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	beatrice	07/28/14 08:24 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Shining	07/28/14 08:17 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	07/28/14 11:53 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	beatrice	07/29/14 09:08 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	07/29/14 11:42 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Shining	07/30/14 01:16 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	AJM	07/30/14 01:24 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	07/30/14 02:33 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Shining	07/30/14 06:25 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	AJM	07/30/14 02:47 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/01/14 12:10 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	AJM	08/01/14 01:16 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/01/14 09:47 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	AJM	08/01/14 10:07 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/01/14 10:27 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	AJM	08/02/14 01:45 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/04/14 12:33 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	T-boned	08/05/14 06:19 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	BrightFuture	08/06/14 02:00 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/07/14 01:59 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	BrightFuture	08/08/14 02:11 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/12/14 01:23 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Matt165	08/12/14 01:48 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	beatrice	08/12/14 07:39 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/13/14 02:02 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/19/14 02:29 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	job	08/19/14 12:23 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/20/14 01:14 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	HopeTex	08/20/14 09:26 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/30/14 01:55 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Mighty	08/30/14 04:06 AM
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Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Georgiabelle	08/30/14 04:29 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	08/30/14 11:18 PM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	Nitty	08/31/14 05:58 AM
Re: H's MLC hit like a ton of bricks	LiveNow	09/03/14 12:40 AM

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