She also said that at some point X told her that she didn't know how to be a wife or married because it was never modeled for her in her childhood - all she had as a reference was movies and film.
Which could be much of the bases for her unrealistic expectations of a relationship.
You see how she cuts others off without an explanation. Also, I gathered from that friend's conversation that XW believes it is always the other person's fault that the R had to end. It's not just you, Crimson. I hope it helps you in some way to realize she has this defect in her development of maturity. One would think she would start to ask herself why this seems to always happen in her life. However, she must point to the other person and believe it is not her fault.
I hope she never decides to cut off a R with her son after he grows into an adult. It will be difficult when he starts growing into manhood. She is going to end up alone for the rest of her life, at this rate.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
