GB - wow...just wow on the poop thing. sometimes they do things that are just so illogical!! That one would definitely make the top 20 list of MLC weird things. Hey you're not alone in that H felt like a 4th child comment. I felt like my H's mother for many years. Him leaving made me realize that I was over responsible, he was under responsible, and now I'm working on that - on me. I let that happen. I didn't do it to be controlling, although it is a controlling behavior, I did it because I was trying to let him relax after work and wanted to be the good wife and let's be real here - who else was going to do it (chores etc). Now I can see that I should have shared more responsibility and he should have taken more as well. I would feel resentment and then it would build inside me because I never did learn to communicate that well. Neither did he. Anyway, that's where that gift of time comes in - now i'm seeing things more clearly and using this time to work on me so my next relationship will not be like this one. Not that I can prevent an MLC from happening, I gotta tell ya, i'm no where near ready to date but when I think about it.. and I do... that maybe one day i'll meet someone new and what if this happens again. I know, can't worry about that now, i'm getting ahead of myself. Sorry to ramble on - just wanted to give you some support and check in on ya - we're on such a similar timeline so I like to see what yours is up to
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
