buz 29: NO CONTROL ~ respond vs. reacting.. dates?

[makingmagic]

Hi Job,

Although my responses of yesterday's breakfast were of pure sharing & my experience... I may have taken over the conversation.

I tend to do this.

I talk too much. I don't let him speak!! He is not a big talker, so I tend to try to fill in the gaps. I want to hear him speak... must learn to STFU!

Next social time spent, will try to let him do the talking!!! Let him lead the convo's. I just don't want there to be silent gaps & him feeling like we have little/nothing to talk about.

I feel hopeful, when I let go... I am anxious to see the authentic outcome of my situation. One that I did not control!! I do have a gut feeling that things will be OK... however, I sometimes fear that it may not...therefore I try to steer/control.

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There is a business transaction that is happening right now that is preventing us from completing our financial agreement. Due to this, he is hyper-focused on the business status as it may create an overwhelming responsibility on him ..by Monday. I would really like to be finalizing my deal with him...but, probably not the best timing... even though my personal position (closing of my house) is on June 23.

I know I must look out for myself first. But, this is my business too & he is very concerned about what will happen. I should be as equally concerned/worried. I guess its OK? to put our personal situation on the back burner until the business is figured out?? I feel that if I bring it up, I will send him over the edge in anger as it is not priority and pressing as the business right now. Sticky situation.