He is drafting the final separation agreement and dissolution papers. I will look over them and he will send them.
Everything looks fine. We are asking for $854 in spousal support for 90 months, 494 in child support with an extension because of D11's disability, five years in the house before I have to refinance and $12,000 paid to me within 6 months to reimburse me for the deferred comp cashout.
There's more about insurance and so forth...but, those are the main issues. I'm sure I will post and ask the atty more questions when I see the final draft.
I was doing ok until he mentioned he spoke to FIL who said the house and the support were going to be the big issues. That scared me. I felt myself spinning.
Still, the agreement is a very fair offer.
My atty LOVES my FIL. Most people in town do and it's hard when he says what great guy he is...FIL also used to be the former domestic relations judge so I'm nervous about what he will come back with...It's FIL who sees the main issue as the house. Smokey doesn't really. I think Smokey would like to see D11 able to stay in the house.
Smokey's solution is to sign the house over to me and me forego any retirement.
As I was driving home, I realized that I could, don't want to, but COULD ask my mom or dad to purchase the house in their name and then have the support sent straight into an account to pay the mortgage. Just thinking out loud in the worst case scenario.
D19 called me at 2 a.m. because her writing prof told her that she prob won't pass college writing, again. Then, she texted and called over and over while I was in the atty's office. I was furious. Spoke to her after and told her my feelings, "Handle this."
I was getting, "Please mom, I need your help. Please, please, please..."
Give me a break. It really upset me. I told her that this spinning is what concerns me about her being in college. IDK. She wears me out. Like Smokey, she wears me out.
Anyway, it's a beautiful day. I'm going to practice some of my tapping. I'm going to work in the yard.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
