I remember when my parents divorced when I was a kid... for years and years my mother kept the secret of just how badly my father behaved with her, and with me behind my back, both to salvage his reputation and not to put me through any more stress. She finally told me all about it last week when I found myself in a similar situation. My grandma went through it also, although albeit being from a different generation, she stayed with grandpa.
I have nothing but HUGE respect for women who have to go through this stuff having to hold back their feelings for the sake of the children involved. You're awesome. Just thought you should know!
Me: 26, BF: 33, R: 9yrs Bomb dropped April 17th 2014 Currently No Contact