Spoue tried I didn't, now opposite #2

[whytry]

I agree I could do the one on one time. W discouraged any of that after BD. Remember my history that she knows me as a manipulator and will undermine her. That would be a touchy subject to bring up cuz she'll wonder WTH I'm doing and what my angle is. It'll be seen negatively for sure since I've been so honest now and she'll again assume my changes are fake and now is a good chance manipulate our children. Yes, that is my history and shame.

Let me kick the thought around. Maybe mention to her and get her temperature? I think my honesty now scares her more than anything as she's waiting for the other shoe to drop.