Crimson.....good WILL come.

[25yearsmlc]

H and our youngest, D16 did Scuba together. The day she qualified for deep sea diving was a rough one on the water. She usually doesn't have a queasy stomach, but that day they ALL had a problem...and I mean, the whole dealio, she was sick as a dog.

But dang if she didn't finish getting sick over the edge of the boat, when she just put her gear back on her face and went back in to qualify. They saw lobsters and huge fish under water. I had my broken leg on shore whining to myself...

Anyhow, I think it sounds wonderful and you'll meet some new people who do NOT know your xw....yay

Oh, and to recap, so the essence of what your xw said to her x friend (weird in itself b/c I have only "dropped" 2 friends I can think of, in my half century long life).

One friend became such an abusive alcoholic ranting, (which we'd both grown up with), that I could not take his calls anymore. However, I sure miss how he was when we were young, and having a male buddy I could totally trust, but he admits that he "became" his father and that's just NOT okay in my adult life.
Not when I have children too.

And the other dropped friend was not very close but she was a single childless friend. One evening she came over and honest to God she was mean to my son when he was little. He was about 3. Then & to this day, if you are outright mean to my child, we're done. But that is very rare. Speaking of which...

Maybe what your x really has not seen in life or film, is Forgiveness. And if you have never seen it, you won't know what it looks like OR how to do it.

That's what church and priest/ministers are for, imo. But to me that is the main thing she did not see growing up.

Oh to be sure, you're right about how Hollywood presents marriages in films...unrealistic expectations and lots of divorce!!

But shoot, Hollywood does not even try to present forgiveness in films...who does?

Outside of religion, I cannot think of any entity that does. Maybe that's a societal thing we'll all tackle next week.