Having said all that...this is why I have encouraged her to think about a semester off. I don't see her agreeing though, and that's ok. She will need to figure her way out of this.
She has applied to 8 different summer jobs. And, she applied for a job at school next year.
I see her as someone who runs like Smokey does...when it comes to uncomfortable feelings. I think she lost herself in her sorority in order to ignore bad feelings coming up about home and used it to avoid schoolwork.
Plus, she doesn't have the skills, yet, to manage schoolwork, sorority elected position, part-time job, etc... I say this because she couldn't manage the first two this year and she plans on adding the job to her schedule next year. I, personally, think she could use a year off to work, earn money, catch her breath and, then, go back. She won't have it though.
I always thought she was a kid who could use one-two years between high school and college to master some "grown up skills." Smokey's nosedive kinda changed everything and I just wanted her to get somewhere more fun, with promise and she wanted to get the he!! outta Dodge...I couldn't blame her at the time.
With Smokey refusing to help her in any way...there's just more pressure on her to figure things out. She doesn't do pressure well.
We went from Smokey leaving her Junior Year to College Visits to Graduation to College last August. No time to breathe. I'm ready for a moment to breathe. Smokey didn't contribute to her graduation expenses or college expenses. I've tackled it all. I'm tired and want nothing more than to take a breather and get my own stuff in order...i.e. dissolution, car, business...
That's what I plan to do, regardless of what she chooses. And, I am reimbursing my account with some of what I spent this year, especially in rental vehicles going back and forth. She can add to this account with money she earns.
The ROTC would be ideal for her. She is an athlete. She had to quit soccer after lettering because she received a fifth concussion. Any structured group with a coach of sorts works wonders on her. She thrives when forced to submit to structure. :-)
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
