Question: I see all the time on this site that confrontation doesn't help or it depends on the circumstances. My W has been marching for D since day 1. She moved into another relationship and might not even feel bad about doing it while still M because in her mind its Done! With this, can confronting her that I know even help me?
Regardless of whether she did or didn't quit the affair, it might make her feel like she can't be around me or she might just get pissed that I snooped enough to find out. Honestly though, since she hasn't backed down at all from D this whole time and now that I know about A I'm thinking I should file first. She can always change her mind but if she doesn't I don't know that making it all easy on her is healthy for me. She has been working on her own paperwork and pushing to get D started, but with the terms she is going to want she looses nothing but responsibility.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10
