Saving my family - Part 12

[ericmsant2]

Scorp

I also have met with a family therapist several times about my situation as well that deals almost exclusively in situations like mine.

That is great. Only issue I see….is much like everyone that is posting here…the therapist only sees YOUR side of the story. Has the therapist spoken to the kids? Your W?

it's simply a matter of needing to write a book to go into every detail of the situation (ie parenting roles before, parenting roles over the past 7 months, my children's well being before and after, their current care, my W's actions, legal considerations, financial considerations etc etc etc).

I actually think you have covered all of this in your post. You seem to think that YOUR sitch is SOOOOO different that everyone else. It’s really not.

Mach, I REALLY have done a LOT of research, on my own and with the help of counsellors as mentioned above. The advice I received from the counsellors, lawyers, etc was to try to avoid the situation turning into a battle in court. I tried to get through to my W my hope to figure our situation out together to do what is best for our kids. Overall, she hasn't been interested in anything other than for me to go along with what she's saying.

OWN your choices – stop defending them. Your W ran the show because YOU allowed it and you did so for a very long time. Now you want changes and you want them now.

3BM - If my W is unwilling to negotiate what options do I have? I have already filled for D and requested to have 50/50 time with the kids in the filing. On my L's advice I have waited to file an interim custody order.

YOU sat on the options for a while. Now that more time has past you cannot expect to use the same approach. One question….

Ever wonder why your L suggest NOT to file the temporary orders? I wonder if it is because she knows it is an uphill battle.

In the past few months my kids have spent a lot of time with me so going the next step to full 50/50 is not a big one. I have talked to my kids about it often.

Base on your signature…they are 6,4 and 2 years old. Do you really expect them to understand what is going on? Do you expect them to understand the logistics of 50/50?

Many on this board were pushing me hard to have the kids brought back to my province

Many on the board had encouraged me to take far more drastic steps than I've taken.

Because according to YOUR post…..

In the past few months my kids have spent a lot of time with me

This ^^^^ was not happening. So as 3BZ asked..which is it?

I stand by what I posted earlier…..