Saving my family - Part 12

[Scorp7]

There has been a TON of research on this topic over the past several years that backs this up.

And you realize you're conversing with a bunch of people who have actually lived this, correct?

Absolutely. There are many here who have basically shared time and their feedback is great.

When I say 50/50, it's not that I am opposed to 60/40 or something slightly less than 50/50. Working up to 50/50 gradually would be ok as well if it made sense for the kids. I don't see that in my case it would make sense but I would be open to discussing it with my W if she was willing to consider something other than what she's been saying up to now.

Am I missing something? I am thinking of my kids first and trying not to worry too much about my W's reaction. If I thought my kids would not do well with them moving to a 50/50 arrangement right away I would not be doing this. The big reason I did not just drive my kids home and keep them there was I didn't want to put them through changing schools yet again as well as everything else that would involve. I'm trying to make the transition to shared time as easy as it can be for them. It will be a bit of an adjustment, way less of an adjustment than what they were put through back in October, to say the least.

I still have not heard back from my W. If she was interested in openly talking about the situation with me I would think I would hear from her soon. My kids are expecting me to be with them from Friday afternoon (I am helping out in D6's class for the afternoon) to Monday evening when I take my D's to gymnastics class. My oldest D has been asking when I would be moving to their area or when she could come home to stay for months now. I've told her all along that I will be coming soon so she has been expecting this for some time. My W has been very well aware of my intentions as well so this really shouldn't be a surprise at all. I've told her I am moving, told her about my job situation, living arrangements etc.

What really is of issue here is 3 days. My kids would already be with me for almost all of Monday anyway. My W works from 7:30am to 5:30pm each of those days so she barely sees the kids. She does not work on Friday which is the day our kids would come back to her. My kids would then be with their Mom for the next 7 days when I would pick them up for the weekend as usual except in the new arrangement it would be for 3 more days.