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My W went on a business trip in mid Jan. Every
thing was great ,she really hated to go. She had to go back in late Jan and upon coming back promptly got a new cell. I continued to think things were ok, we talked laughed and teased and we're intimate. I bought her some expensive earrings for Valentines Day. She said they were beautiful, but cried and never wore them.
I started to notice strange behaviors ,especially regarding her phone which was constantly at her hand. She displayed a furtiveness at times ,missing time and elaborate stories of where she had been or what she was doing when before she would just say "I got a haircut" or something.And I never really ever used to question her about her whereabouts.
A few weeks later and more strange behaviors and I started to look. The phone call logs showed that the very first day she got her phone she called OM 3 times for a total of 3.5
hours. Way past her usual bedtime which she is pretty strict about. They must have just hung up when she heard me get home from work at 1 AM. One call was 339 minutes long. They used over 5000 minutes of text for each of the two months before I confronted her. Along with the dozens of phone calls to OM she called me, her husband 5 times for 9 minutes.
I had his name ,number, photo of her phones texts for one day and then I found a statement for a separate bank acct with 90 grand in it that had been mailed to her mom's address. She always handled finances because she was good at it so I looked into our joint acct. My paychecks showed up deposited and then she would transfer to our joint account from this other account about her payday.
Still acting happy and nice ,maybe a little more withdrawn but still being intimate at the time I found a receipt for a hotel room it was two weeks old OM as T he check in, guests 2.
I confronted her the next day ,I stayed very calm and didn't get angry.
Next the confrontation, aftermath ,and her side as she explained it to me.