She also revealed to me that she is realizing she is severely codependent, and it has kept her from feeling like she can voice her opinions, thoughts, and feelings to me when she thinks they might hurt or anger me. She said she realizes it's not because of any negative reaction on my part, it's something inside her that prevents her from doing it, and that she realizes that's what she brought to the marital breakdown...she realizes that her stifling her feelings led to hostility and resentment and a feeling within her that the only way to escape it would be to escape the marriage. So, that's something she is making a conscious effort to address.
That ^^^^^^, my friend, is a major, major confession on her part. Don't fast-forward past that one too much. That is your W basically owning some of her stuff....a lot of folks here (myself included) haven't gotten that much yet. And, frankly, what she described is EXACTLY what happened to us in part.
I don't know - maybe she is bouncing back and forth, but I think the fact that she can own that is a strong positive.
