I found Cadets thread, thank you. Being careful about kids. Unfortunately, he has treated all 3 of them with little regard and coldness and lied to them all blatantly. We only have d15 still at home and he has put her through it, not calling, not seeing her regularly, and the thing that hurts her most she told me is that he never says he loves her anymore. Our older kids he just doesn't keep in contact with. Being that our kids are old enough to be aware of what goes on it's hard to shield them. When he blatantly lies to our d that he has to work when he is off so he doesn't have to come and see her there is no way to deflect that. I made excuses for him at first but they didn't fly and she pretty much told me that she isn't stupid and to quit treating her that way. So the kids and I try not to talk about him at all. D15 only talks about him when she sees him. I don't ask her to, but she does. I think it's because she has told me many times how uncomfortable she is with him. She says he's not the same and only talks about himself and his friend. But I will try to be more observant of how I interact with the kids when their father comes up.
