Well, I am taking action for my kids and for myself. I can understand why some would think that I may not be making the best choices. Please keep in mind that none of you have all of the information and that each situation is different.
I have informed my W that I will be starting to implement shared time with our kids in the coming week. She may not like it. Should I base my actions on what is best for my kids on how my W may react? No.
My kids are NOT happy with how things are currently. My D6 is in counselling every week dealing with issues from my W's actions. I have seen the effect on both my D4 and S2 as well.
Every decision I have made was with the idea of trying to avoid a battle that would have my kids caught in the middle. Some would say in an effort to avoid a battle I sat on my hands for too long. That may well be the case. I tried to avoid getting into any sort of battle over our kids because that is one of the worst situations a family can find themselves in.
So, I am faced with a choice. Continue to let my W dictate the situation, see my kids for 6 days a month or a bit more if there happens to be a school holiday, OR stand up for what I believe is right for my kids.
They need both their parents equally. There has been a TON of research on this topic over the past several years that backs this up. The notion that children do better when with one parent for the majority of the time is totally false in most cases. No situation after a D is perfect for the kids, that is why I am not closing the door on a R with my W. The best choice for my family is that my kids have equal time with both parents.
Stop trying to defend yourself....
Everyone here, knows what you want.
And if you really read a TON of research about it, then you wouldn't have waited almost 6 months to finally take the action to change it....
Yea, every situation is different...blah, blah, blah
Taking the action to BE a parent is a universal language...
If you can finally just sit back, accept that your actions in this have sukced, and actually read the advice that has been posted to you, instead of defending yourself before you are finished reading it....
Things might look different for you.
EVERYONE that has posted to you, has been in your shoes, faced your decisions, and changed the status quo to benefit the children....
And you dismiss that still....
Yea...get mad at me, although I think that if you are really honest about it...
You will probably realize that you are more angry with yourself....
