I am fare from a vet here on the forums but I was reading through some of your most current posts and wanted to let you know that I can relate in some small way. I have not read all of your sitch but will try to catch up with it later today. I to have done things that have been nice for my W and gotten little to no thanks in response.
As far as why he remains in the same room, this is not important. You can’t know what is going on in his head and it is not healthy to try. My wife stayed in the same bed up until she moved out of the house but started wearing full clothing towards the end which I though was strange but she simply said she was cold.
I have spoken in my thread about a type of therapy that is used to treat certain types of personality disorders. This is called dialectical behavior therapy or DBT for short. I am not saying that you have a personality disorder by any means but the therapy itself is different from normal therapies as it is a set of skills that I think works really well with what we try to do here in DB land. These skills are based loosely from Buddhist principals and can be self-taught to some degree. They have really helped me to calm down and emotionally detach and I would recommend them for anyone who was interested in stronger control over themselves and their emotions. In my thread I listed some websites for more information and would recommend checking it out. One of the first things that I was introduced to was mindful breathing which I now use literally every day and in most cases multiple times a day.
Me: 32 W: 30 M: 11 years T: 12 years Kids: D5 W Left: 03/25/2014
It ain't about how hard you're hit, it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward.
