Upwards - Needing support, tough times ahead

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My W says things like this and I hate it. Its always, I'm sorry you had to go through this or I feel bad about the kids. It never comes off as reflection of what they need to work on or change in life. Its just guilt and never feels like they wish they could change choices.

I'm not saying he doesn't, I just don't think they are good apologies.

I know what you mean, i'll give him his due he is working hard in IC and trying to face his demons (or he was last time we were in contact!) - he's been through rehab and had very intensive therapy so I think thats helped pave the way for him doing this part himself if that makes sense.

Time will tell if he actually takes steps to change the things he dislikes or not - he is very depressed & very unhappy, he cant go on like that forever.