Claire-DB is worth it... I'm pretty sure!

[Upwards]

I have responded differently in several situations that I would have gotten upset or angry in the past.

The changes feel great.

Excellent, this is great progress - DB is to save YOU first & foremost, keep up the GAL and mirror work.

And yet, at the same time, I still am so sad that despite all of this, he still wants to just throw away our family and life together. I have so much grief over all that I am losing

The grief is perfectly normal and believe it or not its a GOOD thing because it shows that you are healing & slowly beginning to accept your new reality - I know how painful it is but try to allow these emotions, accept them as part of this process and remember that they are moving you forwards. Once you begin to accept your new situation, the future will become less daunting & the grief will lessen.

Be kind to yourself, you will cycle up and down for a long time & that feeling of sadness will probably remain but you'll also begin to feel more in control of your emotions and feel a little more positive about the future.

You really need to take this time as a gift, use it wisely and focus on making yourself strong - get yourself to a place where you are happy on your own & your confident that you'll be happy despite where your H is at. Let him go on his own journey whilst you walk your path, you probably cant see it now but one day you'll be thankful for this experience and all that it can give to you if you allow it.

The fact that he is still rejecting me, even though I'm becoming the spouse only a fool would walk away from, is heartbreaking. How could I have chosen a partner so poorly?

The man he is right now is a lost, scared, confused & broken man - that's not the man you married. He is rejecting his life and everything in it, it isn't aimed at you, you just happen to be a part of that.

The more you detach the more you'll see that his actions are absolutely not a reflection on you, they're a reflection on him and his own unhappiness. The ONLY way he will realise that it isn't you or his M making him unhappy is by being able to fully walk away and still feel that unhappiness, maybe then he'll realise that the answer lies within himself.