I won't give up II

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Hi all,

Thanks to everyone for hanging in there with me. I thought it was time for an update. I'll try not to write a novel but no guarantees.

Last Monday, exactly 2 months to the day of my H filing for separation I receive a call from him. He is talking like a lunatic, spewing about his attorney. He's telling me that he didn't tell her that he wanted to go to court or divide assets and how upsetting this is for him. Then said that all that he asked her to do was to file a document for separation. ???? I'm smiling as I listen to him and almost feeling sorry for his attorney. I don't think he read one word of the documents that he signed nor did he listen to a thing that she HAD to have told him about how a separation was going to work. I tried to calm him down and assure him that the info that she was asking him for WAS in the paperwork. After 20 minutes of listening to this very confused MLCer he asked me what I thought he should do. I suggested that if he didn't want to go through the division of assets or appear in court to contact his attorney and ask if he could have it dismissed. (I knew I was taking a chance but after listening to him, I was pretty sure he would do anything to get out of having to divide and appear)! LOL

A few hours later I received the following email from my attorney:

Hi (NLT's Attorney),

I contacted my client, XXX today to touch base and move
this case forward. In doing so I discovered that XXX
misunderstood my explanation of a legal separation and it
is more depth than what he intended.

Ideally, he would like to dismiss the legal separation.

Kind Regards,

MLCers Attorney


H is now working with his attorney on a document that is more like a Post Nuptial agreement. He has been in daily contact with me and most days 2 or 3 attempts are made. Over the weekend, 4 calls and 2 visits to my house. I can't wait to see what he comes up with.

A few things that have happened over the past few months:

He is either losing his job or is about to quit.

The ow is not working but is suppose to hear back from a potential employer "any day now".

He mumbled something this past weekend about "diminishing returns" when he talked about ow's lack of employment.

He voiced concerned about finances and is thinking of selling the house that he lives in and renting something for awhile.

He leased a new car 2 weeks ago (just prior to deciding that he wasn't going to be working much longer).


Those are just a few of the many things that have happened and I'm certain that if he loses his job or voluntarily leaves he will make even more poor choices and decisions..

In the meantime I'm doing quite well and planning a few trips for the summer months. I'm working nearly every day on my gardens and enjoying the peace and quiet of not living the drama of a mlcer.

I will post more when he presents the "Post Nuptial" agreement as well as catch up with everyone.