Have I any hope...?

[25yearsmlc]

Bashy,

I'm not going to answer in detail until I read your thread all over again. I want to be sure I have all my facts before advising further.

But so you know, there will probably always be some leeway and room for debate on 4 things.

First, people will debate "pursuit versus neglect" arguments.

Second, people here will debate what cake eating is, and what is being a friendly LBS who shows he/she can change (and or, forgive)...versus a doormat.

Oh and thirdly, we all have to watch for the line between our wounded egos/false pride, and self respect. It can be a shifting, blurry line.

AND 4th, what's the difference between a healthy boundary and a punitive measure that we've justified with words like "fairness" or "teaching a lesson/showing the WAS the consequences of their choices"?

So you know, that ^^^ is NOT our job to do.

Life teaches lessons/shows consequences...

Meanwhile, I hope this ^^ helps, while I do some more homework.

(((( ))))