I'm looking at this just like any other relationship on here where one 1/2 has gone AWOL or refuses face-to-face contact. (I've seen a few.) Sure, the "living in different countries" thing makes it difficult, but not impossible. Especially when I consider the fact he's flying 24 hours to get here, spending 24 hours to get the visa, and then flying 24 hours to get back home... that's a LOT of effort for someone who's apparently not sure we should be together.