work is good; H is crazy

[Whiterose]

Well, job, it turns out my tenant was right.......every time H is nice I get an FU letter from his L and he said he's been so nice I was gonna get the mother of all letters. Got a 7 page letter yesterday.

He's claiming that the separation caused him to be in such a state that it caused conflict with his boss and he was on the verge of being fired. Apparently they had several meetings as of October (funny October as he left in april) and that in February he was warned he'd probably be let go so this new job came he took it instead of being unemployed. And he's now saying he's making close to 25% less income. He doesn't want to pay any spousal and wants to give me $100/ month for our S19 who, although in full time school, works a part time job and should cover the rest of his own expenses. My sister asked if he was so distraught why did he not use the free counselling service offered by his extended medical!?!? Me assuming the mortgage was contingent upon the amount of support I received. He's wondering how I can cry poor me when I took a job that paid me in a luxury trip instead of cash. He can get fired for being distraught, after abandoning us and rarely seeing his children and having absolutely no responsibility but my one week away to further my career was bad?? He's contesting I paid any family debt so I need to show proof......his visa was in good standing when he started bouncing the mortgage which meant I had to take over the mortgage and stopped paying his visa......who did he think was paying that?? If I don't accept his terms, including stop paying the court ordered support currently as he's so bad off, he'll take me to court. Of course that is not desirable, as he's so bad off and it'll be expensive, but he will.


I've been upset since I got this letter yesterday. He's all over the place, which his normal I understand, but, he ignored me for so long, was nice and then this letter when he warned me at the beginning of April it was coming. I guess he waited for pay stubs which two were attached but I don't know how much more I can do. He's horrible. Just destructive and doesn't care who he takes out.

I'm tired and depressed and just don't know what to do anymore. I see my L Monday but it's just more fighting and legal bills to get what I need to save my children.