Does anyone know of a support website for people who are still married after an affair? I'm just really struggling lately.
Don't get me wrong, I think this forum is great (clearly), but it feels like most folks here are either preventing a D, surviving alone after a D, or avoided the D without an A.
Maybe it's just that I'm postpartum, but I really do love being a SAHM. I think most of my struggles lately are because I have nothing else to focus on (hear me out...). I've always made myself be overly busy, even since early childhood, and later in adolescence I just turned that into a coping mechanism to avoid dealing with difficult things.
As an adult, I've done the same thing. So now that I only have my children to focus on, that's great and all... but when they're napping... and I'm alone with my thoughts....
I know, I would love to be doing other projects in my house while they sleep. There's always something to clean, organize, craft, whatever. But 1) my S is having a harder and harder time not sleeping on me (I am counting the days to sleep training age...), and 2) the problems will still be there whether I think about them or not.
So even if I do busy myself, I'm just suppressing my feelings.
My T has requested that I double up on my sessions to do more intense EMDR. Seeing as I don't go back to work until August, this is doable. We start next week.
It would just be nice to talk to someone who's been on the other side of this. Because right now, I cry every day when my H leaves for work and when my children go to sleep.
So, like I said, if anyone knows of anywhere specifically for people who have stayed married after an A, I'd really appreciate the resource. Thanks.
