Ahhh...the tone is provided by the reader, not the writer! I wasn't at all trying to be condescending, it's more about the fact that I busted my butt for so long trying to address the M 'issues' only to have them either change or be told "Too little, too late" which to me says it wasn't an issue at all. Say you have a problem with something important, say your boss at work. Now this is a job you like, pays well, etc. but there is just these issues you have that really make it hard to not just quit. You talk to your boss, he understands how you feel and goes about addressing each issue to the best he can. Now, do you say "Too little, too late". Yes, all the things that bugged you are addressed BUT you shouldn't have had to tell him about them. He should have just either been a better boss or known these were issues that needed to be addressed?
That is where I found myself after months of trying to address my W's M "issues". None of which, by the way, were huge.
Sorry if you thought I was condescending, wasn't my intent but I'm a bit frustrated at the moment having to deal with this sending my D away when I really should be preparing to see my parents for the first time in 3 years. Seems like my W can find a way to bring drama to even the best of times!
I know you are trying to help, cat. I do apologize if I offended in any way.
By the way, some of my best friends are women.....
