buz 28: finally feeling worthy... a new beginning

[makingmagic]

Yes, I have accepted some (most) all coffee's. Yes, I would do that with a friend. However, I know he uses this coffee time to connect with me. He should be doing that OUTSIDE of work.

Thanks for helping steer me in the direction to thinking for myself... I just don't see it... I do accept that I am knee jerking, but not sure what to do differently. What specifically is my knee jerk here? and how should I respond differently? I know you stated you won't offer suggestions... but maybe make one exception so that I can see it & know what I should be doing instead?

Here is what I see: He declined my offer on Saturday night.
My Knee Jerk: to push, pull, beg him into coming anyway, because I know whats best for him and what I want!
What I did instead: I accepted his decline graciously, and ended off in a joking way.

I'm not sure where I went wrong.

I just know that it feels wrong inside now.

Please direct/advise me further?? I am very willing to review & accept your opinion.

I know that I am the one to decide what to do and when, but I want to have some sort of direction in place that guides me towards my goal.