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Re: too little, too late whytry #2450620 05/06/14 05:48 PM
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OP lost18 Member L Joined: Feb 2014 Posts: 543	I don't know why he did that, have had some different ideas. At any rate, it's thrown me reeling backwards. Of course I have been obsessing about it and yes I know I shouldn't be. On a positive note, I did talk to him today. Was able to be light hearted and did not tear up. Also, did not mention a word about his FB status. Did let him know that I was concerned that he was not contacting the girls unless they contacted him first. Let him know D12 texted him the past 3 mornings and he did not respond. He said he didn't get them and would call her tonight. I really need to work on me the next two months so when I do see him I am able to be positive and attractive. I have no idea what to expect, if he is planning on telling the kids while we're there, before hand or at all. All things that have me in a whirlwind of emotions. I have an appt with my IC tomorrow, I have to work on setting some goals for myself, specifically for this summer. A quick look at what some may look like. 1) lose 15lbs (tangible) 2) buy some cute/sexy outfits 3) have no expectations (very difficult) 4) act as if, regardless of what he does 5) Do not let his words or actions bring me down. 6) Enjoy my friends and family I know these are pretty vague, but because I haven't seen him since the bomb drop it is going to be a very emotional time. I am going to need to work very hard to get myself in a positive place before I see him. I've had a setback the past few days so I'm feeling very emotional right now so these things seem even more difficult to achieve. I feel like he is done, moved on, hopeless. But yet I'm not willing to give up. I am going to make the most of the 10 days I will see him this summer! When I feel hopeless I like to read the books by Liam Naden. the past couple of days I've been rereading his "Marriage Success Mindset" Quote: I am going to save our marriage. I love my spouse and I'll do whatever it takes for us to stay together. 1. I am a great person, worthy of love and having a happy and fulfilling life. 2. I create my own happiness. 3. I am not dependent on my marriage for me to be happy. 4. I am attractive, physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually. I work on becoming more attractive everyday. 5. I focus on the positive aspects or our marriage. 6. Our marriage is only going to get better and better. Sometimes I adjust 5 and 6 to read life instead of marriage. Doing this helps me become more positive. Even though our marriage is where it is right now, I have to work on me and remember it is not over until it's over. Me-44 (45) H- 50 (51) M-'96 S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14) BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas) home Oct(sep rooms) (EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed) insists wants D through July 2015 no more talk of D since

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too little, too late	lost18	04/04/14 01:14 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/04/14 01:53 PM
Re: too little, too late	Bunches	04/04/14 01:57 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/04/14 02:50 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/06/14 02:06 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 01:28 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 01:35 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 01:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 02:03 PM
Re: too little, too late	Bunches	04/08/14 02:10 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/08/14 06:28 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/10/14 02:29 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/10/14 09:59 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/11/14 11:04 AM
Re: too little, too late	melissag	04/11/14 01:21 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/14/14 02:16 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/15/14 01:26 PM
Re: too little, too late	melissag	04/15/14 01:36 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/19/14 02:03 PM
Re: too little, too late	ye21	04/19/14 04:46 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/22/14 01:36 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/25/14 02:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/25/14 07:23 PM
Re: too little, too late	Bunches	04/25/14 07:50 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/26/14 01:52 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/28/14 01:11 PM
Re: too little, too late	melissag	04/28/14 02:10 PM
Re: too little, too late	Underdog	04/28/14 04:12 PM
Re: too little, too late	Underdog	04/28/14 04:19 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/29/14 05:07 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	04/29/14 07:38 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/04/14 04:13 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/04/14 12:55 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/05/14 06:11 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/06/14 05:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/06/14 08:09 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/07/14 05:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	LongRoad06	05/07/14 05:52 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/09/14 06:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/13/14 01:13 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/15/14 01:22 PM
Re: too little, too late	Georgiabelle	05/15/14 01:33 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/15/14 04:00 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/15/14 04:01 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/16/14 08:56 AM
Re: too little, too late	owl777	05/16/14 07:25 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/29/14 04:36 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	04/29/14 04:06 PM
Re: too little, too late	Maybell	05/17/14 08:53 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/20/14 05:03 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/20/14 05:38 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/22/14 01:22 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/23/14 02:20 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/26/14 07:42 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/27/14 06:47 PM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/27/14 09:47 PM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	05/27/14 10:02 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	05/29/14 12:49 AM
Re: too little, too late	whytry	05/29/14 03:13 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/01/14 02:13 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/04/14 01:12 PM
Re: too little, too late	willbwell	06/04/14 02:02 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/05/14 04:28 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/07/14 11:55 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/08/14 01:20 AM
Re: too little, too late	GoatGal	06/08/14 01:39 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/09/14 03:25 PM
Re: too little, too late	willbwell	06/10/14 01:25 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/10/14 01:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/10/14 01:45 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/11/14 01:40 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/14/14 01:47 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/16/14 01:46 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/17/14 02:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/17/14 05:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/19/14 02:00 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/21/14 02:22 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/23/14 02:05 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/24/14 02:26 PM
Re: too little, too late	Thornton	06/24/14 02:31 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/25/14 03:12 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/27/14 01:59 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	06/27/14 02:05 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/01/14 04:46 AM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	07/01/14 05:03 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/01/14 05:09 PM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	07/01/14 08:01 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/01/14 09:24 PM
Re: too little, too late	bashy	07/01/14 09:40 PM
Re: too little, too late	Ben2010	07/01/14 11:53 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/02/14 01:31 AM
Re: too little, too late	Maybell	07/02/14 01:47 AM
Re: too little, too late	Ben2010	07/02/14 02:11 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/02/14 03:04 AM
Re: too little, too late	Thornton	07/02/14 03:59 AM
Re: too little, too late	Maybell	07/02/14 04:01 AM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/10/14 01:45 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/10/14 01:48 PM
Re: too little, too late	lost18	07/13/14 10:42 PM
Re: too little, too late	Wet	07/13/14 10:52 PM
Re: too little, too late	Ben2010	07/02/14 02:10 AM

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