When you stop being afraid of your W, the answers will come clearer to you. You are still paralyzed by fear and guilt in my opinion.
Do I tell her?
What is she gonna say or do?
What if she says no?
What if...what if..what if....
First, stop thinking and trying to coparent with her! I know it sounds harsh. Here is the thing...are you co parenting or are you just doing what SHE wants. A difference buddy. A big difference.
Co parenting takes TWO people. Yes, there are two people involved but who is the one that keeps making all of the changes? Hmmm....
To answer your question more directly....
I would email her and let her know....
"I will pick up the kids on X date. I will drop them off to you on X date and time."
That is it. No "I hope we can work together"...no..."let's do this for the kids"....no ..."we can be a team".
Right now Scorp, the team is YOU, the kids and YOUR attny. She is NOT on your team. Actually, if you are willing to do everything she says, whenever she says, however she say..well them you can be on her team.
Does this help?
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
