Jaye, What do you want to do? You already know that these "honey do" tasks are ways to earn kibbles from you and yes, to possibly lull you back into the web he has woven. He is very much aware that you could walk at any time and he also senses that you are about done w/him and his ow.
How would feel about telling him that you appreciate all of the things he's been doing recently, but you will not accept that the ow is still in the picture. She has to go. That a marriage w/three people in it will not work. If you were to do this, your h would be all huffy, angry and possibly leave...could you handle that? His leaving?
He's been cake eating for a very long time and you, and only you can determine when it's time to put the cake, plate, and fork away. As long as he's allowed to continue eating cake, he'll do it.
Jaye, you have some difficult decisions to make and I would sit quietly for a bit and allow the answers to reveal themselves. You will know when the time is right to do what needs to be done.
Sending you hugs today!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
