2TH - I kinda got the same treatment when XW was thinking through the notion of coming back. I mean, she never had access to the HOUSE or my bathrobe or anything - but I would get voice notes on my phone and a lot more pictures and more kindness in general...we would go to church together and usually take S out to breakfast afterwards....and so on.
To answer your question - for the last month there has been no interaction really...a few drop-offs when we have to deal with each other and I can see her trying to talk and be normal, but I haven't really been too interested. I keep my responses EXTREMELY short and do no linger. A few days after the OM bomb she invited me to attend S's swimming lesson with her - I was like "WTF?!" and didn't respond. I have not responded to any of her text messages that are non life-threatening. So right now, we really don't have much of a relationship or any interactions.
Please do not worry too much about the weight loss. It literally is just a stress/anxiety reaction - it has happened before and I know how to manage it. I totally have my appetite back so I am fine. I have had an annual checkup within the last 6-8 months and I have no other health concerns.
GM - I don't think it was so much as she DIDN'T SEE kindness/goodness/generosity from me. As I look back on it, I think she saw it - but it just became an expectation on her end....not something that she was genuinely grateful for. Remember all of the times I let her have extra time away (and nearly everything else she wanted)? When I drew the line on that this past Christmas she LOST IT......she was p*ssed!
Please don't think I am obsessing and picking apart the "goodness" remark for 25. It just resonated with me, as noted, because I struggle with how to be. I am not trying to dissect it for some sort of meaning or course of action. I am doing my best to stay dark and keep the roped DROPPED. I have moments when I want to reach out or something...but they are immediately quelled and I move on.
