Still trying to save my family - part 11

[Barrybran]

Absolutely. I get what you're saying. The sooner you can get to 50/50 or as eric suggests, what is best for the kids even if not 50/50, the better. Your wife and kids are used to not seeing you for 12 days though. They have their routines in place. If I were in your situation and my wife told me she was moving to my town to start 50/50 I'd be saying "not so fast" because I would have done the hard yards and would have my routines in place and I would not appreciate her coming in and telling me what's going on.

Have you discussed how you'll co-parent at any time in the past few months? My understanding of your entire situation to date is that she's doing the day-to-day things off her own back and you do your own thing for 2-3 days. Co-parenting is going to require communication and cooperation that you haven't had since before BD.