At this point I'm really not that concerned about ME being rejected as much as keeping the damage to my kids to a min. Found out today that W is trying to force my 14 year old to go to live with my FIL for a month, NOT BOTHERING TO TALK TO ME ABOUT IT! She knows I wouldn't allow that. She knows how I feel about him and how he treats them and has been trying to guilt my 14 year old into agreeing. Now my D has come to me to ask me to intervene and get her mom to leave her alone.
At this point I don't give a damn if she is hurting, having an MLC or is just plain insane, I will not allow her to screw with my kids without even bothering to talk to me about it first. So, this is what she means by "co-parenting" and acting the "right way" because it's not divorce that hurts kids, it's now you act after.
She wants out of our marriage that's her choice. She can not and I will not allow her to expose my kids to her dad or make decisions about where they go and who they stay with without my go ahead. They both are planning to stay with me when she leaves. I will not allow her to use my good will towards her against me. I already have given up doing much of what I want to do because she needs my help or support to work late or help her grandmother or mother. No more of that. She has gone too far and the kids are the hill I will die on.
By the way I may not have been a perfect husband but I did NOTHING to deserve her I don't want to even try attitude. For 24 years I hear nothing but marriage is forever, I'll never put my kids thru that until she changes her mind overnight? 12 weeks after I got a vasectomy only because she swore she had no thoughts of leaving? Sorry cat, I'm sure I have things about myself that can be improved but I have been an excellent husband and father and did nothing to force her into changing every value she swore she had.
