Hi Matt, if any of my scribblings helps you, I am flattered. Like everyone else, I'm just doing the best I can. I believe my W deserves nothing less. I also believe she is doing her best, too.

It is not easy to give up on a long term M, especially one that really wasn't that bad. Our spouses always will harbor a bit of uncertainty, especially if we work on ourselves and play our DB cards right. It's our job to capitalize on this!

I've followed much of your thread and you have received some sage advice. In my humble opinion, you are fretting and spinning way too much over people and things you can't control. This is understandable in the beginning, but you've been at this a while now. Maybe it's time to step back, and reanalyze your course.

I wish you all the best Matt, and hope that you find a way to bring more peace to your life. It really is in your power to do this.

M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl