Still trying to save my family - part 11

[Scorp7]

Thanks eric. I agree, it has to be about the kids and only the kids, not just what either my W or I want. They need both my W and I in their lives equally. Ideally it would be every day. If not, then sharing time with them gets us as close to the kids having the influence of both parents every day as possible.

Having said that, I am curious on what you all think I should do about the coming week.

I am planning to pull our large RV over to my W's town and keep the kids with me for the entire week. Basically to implement the shared time concept I have been talking about. The kids will of course be in their same schools, do their same after school activities etc.

The question is, should I tell my W my plans BEFORE I have the kids?

When I had previously told my W I planned to keep the kids with me for an extra day over the weekend she threatened to withhold the kids from me. When I told her the kids would be in school for that day and do everything they normally would do she went along with it.

Now I am planning to keep them for not one extra day but 5.

I would like to tell her my plans and be upfront about things. My concern is that she will flip out and withhold the kids from me. If I don't tell her before hand, pick the kids up on Friday and then tell her once the kids are with me she still will likely get upset however I at least would have the opportunity to show that the kids can do very well staying with me for a week while they are in school. She then hopefully will get used to the idea, see that the kids are just fine and then go along with things.

Thoughts?