25, Smokey hasn't earned the right to visit without my presence yet. Not sure if he will or not. He needs to earn her trust. D11 has special needs and his M.O. of dropping back into her life when it suits HIS needs is something I've allowed for too long. This visitation situation is a boundary I'm setting and I'm setting it by listening carefully to what D11 requests. She hasn't had a voice and, now, I'm honoring her voice in a way I never have before.
Wow, that felt good. I needed to get that bit of anger and frustration and defense out of my system. I think Smokey's voice and my inlaws and their insanity has still been swirling in my head a bit more than I thought. I could hear them saying, "Heather makes too much of D11's Asperger's and yadda, yadda..."
NO. Heather hasn't respected D11's needs ENOUGH. D11 has a right to dictate how she sees her dad and her grandparents. They haven't proven their ability to provide a safe and nurturing atmosphere for her.
That felt good. Jerks.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
