I really need some feedback here from some Sr. people. My parents coming to visit for first time in 3 years has had W anxious. I'm beginning to think she wants her father to come because she's afraid of what is going to happen with my parents!

One of the reasons my W wanted to marry me was because of my parents. They always accepted her and loved her something she never got from her father. When her MLC began 3.5 years ago, she hitched a ride with my parents without me to visit her dad as they could go that way on their trip home. I wasn't there but she told me that her and my mom didn't "get along" on the trip and she was very angry. I couldn't understand that as for the week before, they had all gotten along great. My mom was 70 at the time and doesn't travel well and can get tired but never anything awful. But since then my W has always come up with reasons they can't visit. Now I know my W was starting her MLC and it was the way SHE saw things that made her think my mother and her didn't "get along".

My parents have told me from the start of this to tell my W they love her and are worried about her. They are worried about me and my kids of course but say this is so unlike my W, they know there is something more going on here. This morning my W asked me "Are your parents angry at me?". I was honest with her and told her "From the start they have told me to make sure you know they love you. They also don't like the way you are acting right now, and I agree with them. But they do love you.".

My W's reaction to this was to laugh and say "...the way I'm acting...". I just looked at her and said "Yes, the way you're acting". She seems to think this is just so funny. She is acting horrible. She won't give our marriage a chance, is purposely hurting her kids, doing so many awful things. Yes, the way you are acting.

Last night was oldest D's first grad ceremony and it was great. The pastor talked about giving your all in life especially in things like your marriage and there sits my W. She purposely sat 3 seats away and instead of us sharing the satisfaction of getting her through 12 years of private school. All the sacrifice it took to afford to do this and I was looking forward to sharing these times with her, not having her telling me she wants a D and too bad younger D just won't go to this school, gets in the way of her wanting to "find her joy"!

Way does she think saying the way she is "acting" is so funny? How can she not feel the way I do about our shared sacrifice we went thru and be so cold? God, all the hard work it took us both to get our D to this place and she is so very cold!