Draft for comments (if any). Tomorrow would be our wedding anniversary so I don't really want to send it then.
"Hi W
I accept these updated arrangements. Thank you for your taking my requests into account.
I can see from aspects of the email that you still feel hurt and anger towards me, and I am very sad about that.
I hope that we can, with time, foster a better relationship for D2’s benefit and because I care about you very much.
I can understand your feelings about the meeting and phone call, but our interpretations are different. I consider that the subjects are difficult/upsetting (would be even for people who were very good communicators). The context is also challenging: we are separated, have not spoken much for a period, and I have hurt you a lot. [THINKING OF DELETING THIS/feels unhelpful/ not really achieving much?]
In the future, I would prefer to have a professional third person involved if we have conversations about what either of us might call ‘difficult’ things like parenting opinions or custody arrangements. I want us both to be able to disagree and/or be assertive without either of us feeling ignored or so bad. I think a pre-condition for our being able to do this is “trust” and I think that needs to be (re)built - with guidance from a trained professional. This could be started without any difficult topics on the agenda just as a constructive thing for us to do. Let me know if you are open to advancing this.
