WHY WHY WHY can't he just live with his choices and leave me to my life?!
I think that's somewhat obvious....
What am I missing, he wants his cake & to eat it?! I've had another 2 emails; begging me to talk to him, asking if i'm alright, saying he's sorry, saying that he hates all this...
To leave the relationship he has with you completely, or to fully commit to work on the relationship with you (i.e giving up OW), he'd had to take a leap of faith. There are no guarantees either way. Clearly he's not read to do either of those...so what are his options? Keep those plates spinning!
That's basically what NC does...it makes the choice for them. We pull our own plate out of the game and then see what they do. Sometimes they decide our plate is what they want and they come running, sometimes they live with their choice, and sometimes they simply bounce around for months or years until they figure it out.
The key here is that it's not about him....it's about you. It doesn't matter what or who he chooses....you are still going to be the same awesome person, moving forward, finding happiness, taking care of your children and yourself. So instead of worrying about "why," instead of worrying about his choices, make your own choice...and choose you.
