It is good to see you are growing like a butterfly from the caterpillar. You are doing very well
As for your last post...great stuff not being the scapegoat and expecting what is yours and nothing else.
Also a bit of sage wisdom, if you reconcile I suggest a strong boundary....Your husband needs to start accepting responsibility for his actions. True 100% responsibility for everything he does. A person who cannot do this is in my life experiences is lacking in self confidence, integrity, and personal conviction. To pass the buck for ones actions is easy, to accept that what one did is wrong/selfish/etc is much harder.
So a choice for you (reconcile or new relationships) is do you want a person who passes the buck or one who takes ownership of their faults? This can apply to everything from spouses, friends, co-workers, etc....
