Hello all. Having another weird day in MLC land today. W is all anxious as my parents are coming for D's graduation. She is worried about the state of the house as she stopped caring much about cleaning or housework, especially since she is planning on leaving soon. She has stopped my parents from visiting for the last few years (something I never should have allowed but that's hindsight) and she is aware that they know she wants to go. Since the start of this my parents have said "tell he we love her. This isn't like her, something must be wrong" of course, they also are worried about me and you know how hard it is for LBS's family. They see how you are being treated by WAS and are so worried and angry.
She has been short tempered with me at times and at other times is calling me and asking my opinion or if I want something. While I was outside cleaning the deck, she talked to my FIL. I came in just in time to get he is planning on coming for sure. She knows no one but her wants to see him and his W, but she wants so badly to have him be a part of her life, so badly wants our D's to like him and see him as she now see's him, not the jerk who ruined her life but a victim of some sort and a changed man. Why are the MLCers so selfish? Why do they only care what they want, do what they want.
OMG! I can't believe what just happened while I was writing this! W came in to tell me her mom had hurt her wrist working around her house. Her mom has been having a lot of problems lately, especially since her mother is suffering from Alitzhimers. She has always been a very negative person, always a victim. W tells me that she is so tired of her mom thinking that way. How, whatever a person decides to see, only the bad or only the good is what you will get! This is exactly what I have been trying to tell her about our marriage! She only wants to see the bad, that we had a "bad marriage" while that just isn't true. It's only the fact that she keeps only remembering the bad, discounting the good, that makes her see it that way. Here she is complaining about how someone else is doing EXACTLY what she is with her marriage and can't see that. Than a few min's later told me how ugly she thinks her legs are and believe me people, there is nothing wrong with her legs. She looks at least 10 years younger than her age and has great legs, always has. Gee, maybe it's how she isdeciding to see her legs that's the problem.
Ugh! How can they be so blind to what they do and so fast to see only the bad in the people who love them and have for more than 20 years?! How can they seem to understand that how you see a sitch is how it will be but than make the choice to only see their marriage that way?
