Hi Mustard, I was just thinking about you the other day and hoping your absence meant that you and H were doing really well rebuilding your M. So I was sad to read your most recent updates.
It sounds very obvious that this is something that you can't do much about. Your H has his own issues, and if he won't address them himself, let alone let you in on them so you can deal with them together, there is really nothing you can do other than stay out of his way.
I can empathize with the feeling of wanting him to snap out of it. Our Hs are different, but when we are sitting there slogging through having to work out a parenting plan, I'm thinking, "it would have been so much easier to work on our M than to do this." It kind of makes me want to slap him in the face, or give him a swirly in the toilet.
I think you are handling things just right, Mustard . . . and I hope you know that this isn't about you. I know that is small solace, but hopefully it will help you to keep the focus on your and your kids.
I hope he does figure this stuff out and change his mind.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
