Not too much to update. Trying to do more of the same. Had a FT meeting this past week. My W arrived a few minutes late, broke down, and I had to leave for the first 20 minutes while the FT worked with her. It was frustrating. Then most of the session was spent on her, and then the FT offered her an opinion that she really needs to take ownership of her part in the failure of our M. I was surprised a bit, because these meetings are more about schedule than anything else. She told W that she is worried she hasn't accepted responsibility for her part in the destruction of our M, and her issues will continue to follow her around until she does. Doesn't want her to regret the decisions she has made from her blame state.
The whole process made me realize really how much my W needs work herself. Afterwards it wasn't discussed in any way. I didn't bring it up at all. And I won't. We are splitting the kids a bit more now, which really helps me with GAL
Once again a window was left open on my computer that showed DM Sexting. It doesn't bother me anymore like it used to. However, my issue is that there was an element left on with an oven mitt on top of it. She was at the house to pack up my younger two while I went to older BB practice. She was there for 15 min, my nanny left, and then W left to pick up S8 from practice to go to her place. I went straight home to get ready to GAL
When I got home, flames were flying up toward the stove fan. If I had been a few minutes delayed, the house may have caught fire. Clearly she was distracted. One of my boundaries is no cell phone/texting in the house around the kids. Clearly this was violated. Of course I know this from the window on the computer. Just not sure if I should make a big deal of this or not. The Sexting is not my concern. Probably my first plan of action is password protection for the computer, at least that solves that issue
My concern is not paying attention to my young kids when under her care, and not adhering to my boundary. I need to figure or a way to approach this subject completely from that perspective. I don't like my boundary not being respected.
As per usual, I am now getting text messages this AM regarding my S8, how he is unmanageable, and she is incapable of parenting him. I worry about him getting hurt by her, and I'm not really sure how to respond when I receive these messages. Last two Saturdays, after she has had the kids overnight it's the same thing. I think she doesn't realize how upset he is about what is going on. She doesn't want to see that. My son is very perceptive (no idea where he got that from ) He knows what is going on.
I've almost got the smokey smells out of my house. So thankful nothing else happened. Appreciate the small things in life sometimes
) He knows what is going on.
