Heather - my dil (therapist) does tapping where appropriate - she thought it was a bit hokey when she started researching the technique, until she started seeing how effective it was.
just want to say hey and you'e sounding strong and determined here. good luck- it's hard junk isn't it?
you saying you tend to stay "dark" and digest rather than asking for help - i k now, me too alot. guess we all just need to deal with our human sides and imperfections (along with those of h & everyone else0. we're sure a nutty and neurotic collection - human beings - aren't we?
everyone has something different going on- good or bad. oh well
Thank you TL, Brookl, 25, Nero and Will. You guys are awesome. ;-)
I slept last night!! I feel like I could a few more hours, but I'll take it. I wasn't tossing and turning.
I did this really strange, bizarre thing for me! I took care of myself! D11 had a friend over and I lit some scented candles in my bedroom,, took my melatonin, put on some relaxation music (to drown out the One Direction music coming from D11's room, lol).
Had my humidifier and fan going, along with some fluffy pillows.
And, when I noticed that 10 mg was doing the trick, I took 10 more. And, it worked!
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Went to see my mom last night at her apartment. I just needed to be with my mom for a bit and it helped. I feel very blessed to be able to do this when needed. She was irate over the $24,000 and kinda funny about it.
Chicago's "He Had it Coming" has been running through my head over and over and over and over. And, over...
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
He is wearing the very latest in teenage attire...
Oh man, says it all!
How about an earring and vanity license plate, like my former brother in law? Then 2 years passed and my sister was remarrying and he realized he had "made a HUGE mistake"....oops.
Too late. My sister was devastated when he left, after 3 kids and 22 years of marriage, during which SHE put HIM thru law school, while working full time as a nurse AND doing most of the child rearing. She got half the house equity & $150 a month in alimony for 2 years & that's it. He now has a 6 figure income, thanks to her...it was unfair but, so what?
She's now happy and told me that "even though" she'll never feel at peace with how the D hurt her kids, she IS at peace with what they get to see in her new marriage.
Her "new" H, (11 years now) really gets her. Puts true effort into the M.
My sister said that "now that [she] knows what it's like to be THE priority", she'd "never go back to what [she & her ex h] had..."
I could compare his new life to hers some more, but why do that?
He is NOT relevant to her life. His happiness/misery are not relevant to HERS. There's no converse or inverse relationship between the two. If his car breaks down, she does "win" a new car. If he goes on a cruise, she suffers NOT at all...
And that's why I tell folks to "lose the scorecard". (Plus, it's impossible to know what someone else's experience is or how "happy" they are, were/will be.) And what matters, the only thing that matters, AND the only thing we can control, is OUR happiness (& how we treat others). Which is also our responsibility. It always was ours, even when we gave that "happiness" duty to others, it was ours.
Now we know. Hence all of our changes. My sister is genuinely happier, with less stress in her life, than she ever would have been with my former bil. I know this to be true & at the time he left, I recall wondering how long it would take before my sister realized, he had done her a favor...
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
