Let It Go

[wishing, hoping]

BK

I am so with you on all of this. I believed my marriage failed because I was the b*tch. I don't any longer. Like you, there were issues I could have handled better. But we do the best we can at the moment. These guys threw the marriage away when it ceased to be fun and it started being real. They can't handle real.

Like you I had a friend who had an affair with a married man. She expected him to leave his wife of many years. Thankfully he never did. My friend is happily married now to a wonderful man that I introduced her to in hopes she would finally let go of her obession with that awful married man. I still feel bad for his wife. That man has cheated on her since day one of their marriage. He is an addict and has a serious problem. He even tried to pick me up but I could smell trouble a mile away and stayed far away. She stayed in her marriage because her religion would shun her if she divorced. She drinks heavily. She is a wonderful woman but she allows the dysfunction to continue. Sometimes I think about saving marriages and what is the cost of saving your marriage? I can day that I am glad I am not this woman. I could have turned into her had my marriage survived.

Let your ex make his own bed and lay in it, BK. You don't know how this will pan out. If it comes to a point where you need to have a discussion with him then wait for that time. I think right now he will just think you are jealous about their relationship. My ex has ruined his relationship with his son. It will never be the same again. That is between H and S. H won't listen to me anyway. They need to work it out.

(((BK)))

WH